Family therapists agree that wealth does not make people happy. Family therapists are hired by the rehab clinic to help with the family problems that arise when you have wealthy parents.
Problems like the money you give to your son or daughter, which is either through a trust fund or allowance.
You as a parent have created an inherently unequal relationship, with your children in which they are essentially employed by you. Your children believe the family money belongs to them when they reach a certain age.
While a good parent would involve themselves in their children lives, you can control and develop a loving relationship with your children. You can control the family life and the good family relationship in a positive way with the use of the money.
What often happens though, when you don't supply your children with this loving family atmosphere is that your children experiment by spending the money you control.
Your children become angry and resentful at your efforts at control, and your children gets their only sense of power by blowing money foolishly. Without your love and your time invested in your children, your children are likely to be in a state of permanent rebellion.
The problems of the rich, whether the Kennedy's, the Windsors, or the lottery winners are rarely caused just by the money. No amount of money can create good genes or good parents or good relationship or even good luck.
Wealth alone can neither cause nor cure the pains of life, it can just make them inexplicable to the envious.
Although the rich are as much in need of help as anyone else, they are an overlooked phenomenon in the family psychotherapy literature.
Wealth is not good for children. As Andree Aelion Brooks (1989) noted, it creates a lifetime dependency upon rich parents, belittles children's own accomplishments, distorts their relationships with their peers, makes them distrustful of friendships, and increases their sense of what is enough.
Fuck You Money - This is when the parents have so much money, they will never have to work a day in their lives, nor will their children have to work to make a living.
Go Away Money - This is when the parents have their own lives, and want a total seperation from their children from spoiling their individuality. The parent is able to make their children go away simply by throwing money at them.
The harm that is caused by using these techniques on the wealthy parents own children, drives the children to pick up addictions. The rich parents are directly responsible for causing their childrens addiction to drugs and their alcoholism.
If the wealthy parent deals with their children when its to late, this could result in their childs death. Simply by cutting off their childrens money might cause them to seek out illegel means for supplying their addictions. Sometimes the cause of this parental problem is when a parent carried into wealth and has no idea that acting this way to their children is like allowing them to play with a loaded gun.
If the parents were both from money, then they understood what harm they could cause their children by giving them fuck you money or go away money could cause. They can't simply be blameless in this case for causing their childrens drug and alcohol addiction, leading to their childrens death.
The cause is you as the parent, but the cure is also with you as the parent.
Parents often ask dr. sober companion:
What you can do to help my children?
How can you help with their addictions?
How do you stop them from drinking and their alcoholism?
Is it to late to help my children?
dr. sober companion answers with the simple fact that as long as your children are still living, you have a chance as a parent to help them.
Its only late when their dead.
Don't wait until you have killed your children.
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