the nanny raises rich children - by dr. sober companion dr. rob tencer
Successful men and women may bow out of active parenting, hiring in effect a nanny to raise their children for them. Unfortunately, the children of these ever-present nannies and ever-absent fathers and mothers are not likely to get to know the creator and/or steward of the family wealth and therefore do not benefit from their parents wisdom they learned from their failures and their successes-which would be their irreplaceable heritage.
Because children learn about money and values from the nanny who raises them, they identify with their angry, emotionally and often financially deprived nanny. These children are likely to develop selfish, short-term goals and objectives, far different from the long-term goal of their wealth-producing or wealth-protecting parents.
Your children rarely develop skills at making or keeping money, merely skills at throwing it away. Your children develop the skills that are least likely to produce long-term happiness or solid relationships.
Your children may grow up with a strong sense of entitlement, enormous self-esteem, and a self-conscious belief in their own importance and visibility in the universe, but no self-confidence, no belief that they can do anything of value for themselves or anyone else.
Your children may have to blow their inherited wealth before they can move on toward their own successes.
You as parents may only go into battle to get your alcoholic son or daughter out of a drunk-driving charge, with great concern for how it would look on his record and little concern with the reality of his alcoholism.
Lets discuss the various forms of money that wealthy parents have and how they use it as a weapon on their children.
Fuck You Money - This is when the parents have so much money, they will never have to work a day in their lives, nor will their children have to work to make a living.
Go Away Money - This is when the parents have their own lives, and want a total seperation from their children from spoiling their individuality. The parent is able to make their children go away simply by throwing money at them.
The cause is you as the parent, but the cure is also with you as the parent.
Parents often ask dr. sober companion:
What you can do to help my children?
How can you help with their addictions?
How do you stop them from drinking and their alcoholism?
Is it to late to help my children?
dr. sober companion answers with the simple fact that as long as your children are still living, you have a chance as a parent to help them.
Its only late when their dead.
Don't wait until you have killed your children.
email dr. sober companion at dr.sober@gmail.com
dr. sober companion is dr. rob tencer
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Monday, January 26, 2009
A wealthy parents greed was the drug they gave to their children
greed in the family - by dr. sober companion dr. rob tencer
Your curse to your children is that you require unhealthy ways to gain pleasure. It has been studied and pointed out (philip slater 1980), that your senseless greed and continuation in the pursuit of wealth long past the point that it gives you pleasure.
One of the main reasons wealth makes you unhappy is that it gives you too much control over what you experience. You try to translate your own fantasies into reality . . . an enervating and disappointing pastime ...
Your curse to your children was in their education and how they grew up. Your children's learning and growing are very difficult with wealth because they depend on experiences in real life, and wealth enables one to buy out of life.
Wealth provides the wherewithal to cling to every outworn fantasy, pathway, or goal-to grasp every outgrown security blanket more tightly-to control your input in such a way that you never need to change or develop.
The curse of money and its ultimate affect on you and your children could result in severe depression or suicide, its so powerful.
This curse of money was studied in depth by Cloe Madanes, who pointed out, "wealth often appears to be cursed, bringing with it more misery than joy." Sooner or later they realize that the wealth is not going to make them happy, but they then are likely to seek out more intense and drastic pleasures, from taking more risks, finding new drugs, getting into machines that go too fast, or otherwise trying to intensify experiences in a life that is rapidly becoming jaded, exhausted from overindulgence.
When a child grows up with having so much money, they don't have to work or succeed at anything in life, their wealth deprives them of pride in their own usefulness, isolates them from everyone less fortunate, distorts relationships with their loved ones, and ultimately disillusioning them.
Your children rates of depression and suicide, and their general levels of misery go up beyond middle-class levels almost to the levels of the poor.
Lets discuss the various forms of money that wealthy parents have and how they use it as a weapon on their children.
Fuck You Money - This is when the parents have so much money, they will never have to work a day in their lives, nor will their children have to work to make a living.
Go Away Money - This is when the parents have their own lives, and want a total seperation from their children from spoiling their individuality. The parent is able to make their children go away simply by throwing money at them.
The cause is you as the parent, but the cure is also with you as the parent.
Parents often ask dr. sober companion:
What you can do to help my children?
How can you help with their addictions?
How do you stop them from drinking and their alcoholism?
Is it to late to help my children?
dr. sober companion answers with the simple fact that as long as your children are still living, you have a chance as a parent to help them.
Its only late when their dead.
Don't wait until you have killed your children.
email dr. sober companion at dr.sober@gmail.com
dr. sober companion is dr. rob tencer
Your curse to your children is that you require unhealthy ways to gain pleasure. It has been studied and pointed out (philip slater 1980), that your senseless greed and continuation in the pursuit of wealth long past the point that it gives you pleasure.
One of the main reasons wealth makes you unhappy is that it gives you too much control over what you experience. You try to translate your own fantasies into reality . . . an enervating and disappointing pastime ...
Your curse to your children was in their education and how they grew up. Your children's learning and growing are very difficult with wealth because they depend on experiences in real life, and wealth enables one to buy out of life.
Wealth provides the wherewithal to cling to every outworn fantasy, pathway, or goal-to grasp every outgrown security blanket more tightly-to control your input in such a way that you never need to change or develop.
The curse of money and its ultimate affect on you and your children could result in severe depression or suicide, its so powerful.
This curse of money was studied in depth by Cloe Madanes, who pointed out, "wealth often appears to be cursed, bringing with it more misery than joy." Sooner or later they realize that the wealth is not going to make them happy, but they then are likely to seek out more intense and drastic pleasures, from taking more risks, finding new drugs, getting into machines that go too fast, or otherwise trying to intensify experiences in a life that is rapidly becoming jaded, exhausted from overindulgence.
When a child grows up with having so much money, they don't have to work or succeed at anything in life, their wealth deprives them of pride in their own usefulness, isolates them from everyone less fortunate, distorts relationships with their loved ones, and ultimately disillusioning them.
Your children rates of depression and suicide, and their general levels of misery go up beyond middle-class levels almost to the levels of the poor.
Lets discuss the various forms of money that wealthy parents have and how they use it as a weapon on their children.
Fuck You Money - This is when the parents have so much money, they will never have to work a day in their lives, nor will their children have to work to make a living.
Go Away Money - This is when the parents have their own lives, and want a total seperation from their children from spoiling their individuality. The parent is able to make their children go away simply by throwing money at them.
The cause is you as the parent, but the cure is also with you as the parent.
Parents often ask dr. sober companion:
What you can do to help my children?
How can you help with their addictions?
How do you stop them from drinking and their alcoholism?
Is it to late to help my children?
dr. sober companion answers with the simple fact that as long as your children are still living, you have a chance as a parent to help them.
Its only late when their dead.
Don't wait until you have killed your children.
email dr. sober companion at dr.sober@gmail.com
dr. sober companion is dr. rob tencer
What is going on in the wealthy parents head, that they could not treat their children as their most vauable possesion?
Your children is your most valuable possession - by dr. sober comapnion dr. rob tencer
Your children may be unhappy because they are your children which J. Sedgwick describes as a dispiriting and crippling burden, because you may have amassed wealth obsessively through your inability to be satisfied, your relentless need for competitive victory, and your willingness to commit the "great crime" that, presumably "lies behind every great fortune."
In other words, you are inherently unhappy and do what they do in hopes that more of something (or maybe even more of everything) will finally fill the void inside of you.
It is your unhappiness (i.e., your inability to be easily satisfied) that has driven them to get rich.
It is this destructive way of life that destroys your childrens abilities in their life.
Lets discuss the various forms of money that wealthy parents have and how they use it as a weapon on their children.
Fuck You Money - This is when the parents have so much money, they will never have to work a day in their lives, nor will their children have to work to make a living.
Go Away Money - This is when the parents have their own lives, and want a total seperation from their children from spoiling their individuality. The parent is able to make their children go away simply by throwing money at them.
The cause is you as the parent, but the cure is also with you as the parent.
Parents often ask dr. sober companion:
What you can do to help my children?
How can you help with their addictions?
How do you stop them from drinking and their alcoholism?
Is it to late to help my children?
dr. sober companion answers with the simple fact that as long as your children are still living, you have a chance as a parent to help them.
Its only late when their dead.
Don't wait until you have killed your children.
email dr. sober companion at dr.sober@gmail.com
dr. sober companion is dr. rob tencer
Your children may be unhappy because they are your children which J. Sedgwick describes as a dispiriting and crippling burden, because you may have amassed wealth obsessively through your inability to be satisfied, your relentless need for competitive victory, and your willingness to commit the "great crime" that, presumably "lies behind every great fortune."
In other words, you are inherently unhappy and do what they do in hopes that more of something (or maybe even more of everything) will finally fill the void inside of you.
It is your unhappiness (i.e., your inability to be easily satisfied) that has driven them to get rich.
It is this destructive way of life that destroys your childrens abilities in their life.
Lets discuss the various forms of money that wealthy parents have and how they use it as a weapon on their children.
Fuck You Money - This is when the parents have so much money, they will never have to work a day in their lives, nor will their children have to work to make a living.
Go Away Money - This is when the parents have their own lives, and want a total seperation from their children from spoiling their individuality. The parent is able to make their children go away simply by throwing money at them.
The cause is you as the parent, but the cure is also with you as the parent.
Parents often ask dr. sober companion:
What you can do to help my children?
How can you help with their addictions?
How do you stop them from drinking and their alcoholism?
Is it to late to help my children?
dr. sober companion answers with the simple fact that as long as your children are still living, you have a chance as a parent to help them.
Its only late when their dead.
Don't wait until you have killed your children.
email dr. sober companion at dr.sober@gmail.com
dr. sober companion is dr. rob tencer
A parents curse of being weathly is tranfered to your children
curses that wealthy parents give to their children - by dr. sober companion dr. rob tencer
The curse of money and its ultimate affect on you and your children could result in severe depression or suicide, its so powerful.
This curse of money was studied in depth by Cloe Madanes, who pointed out, "wealth often appears to be cursed, bringing with it more misery than joy."
Sooner or later they realize that the wealth is not going to make them happy, but they then are likely to seek out more intense and drastic pleasures, from taking more risks, finding new drugs, getting into machines that go too fast, or otherwise trying to intensify experiences in a life that is rapidly becoming jaded, exhausted from overindulgence.
When a child grows up with having so much money, they don't have to work or succeed at anything in life, their wealth deprives them of pride in their own usefulness, isolates them from everyone less fortunate, distorts relationships with their loved ones, and ultimately disillusioning them. Their rates of depression and suicide, and their general levels of misery go up beyond middle-class levels almost to the levels of the poor.
Lets discuss the various forms of money that wealthy parents have and how they use it as a weapon on their children.
Fuck You Money - This is when the parents have so much money, they will never have to work a day in their lives, nor will their children have to work to make a living.
Go Away Money - This is when the parents have their own lives, and want a total seperation from their children from spoiling their individuality. The parent is able to make their children go away simply by throwing money at them.
The cause is you as the parent, but the cure is also with you as the parent.
Parents often ask dr. sober companion:
What you can do to help my children?
How can you help with their addictions?
How do you stop them from drinking and their alcoholism?
Is it to late to help my children?
dr. sober companion answers with the simple fact that as long as your children are still living, you have a chance as a parent to help them.
Its only late when their dead.
Don't wait til you have killed your children.
email dr. sober companion at dr.sober@gmail.com
dr. sober companion is dr. rob tencer
The curse of money and its ultimate affect on you and your children could result in severe depression or suicide, its so powerful.
This curse of money was studied in depth by Cloe Madanes, who pointed out, "wealth often appears to be cursed, bringing with it more misery than joy."
Sooner or later they realize that the wealth is not going to make them happy, but they then are likely to seek out more intense and drastic pleasures, from taking more risks, finding new drugs, getting into machines that go too fast, or otherwise trying to intensify experiences in a life that is rapidly becoming jaded, exhausted from overindulgence.
When a child grows up with having so much money, they don't have to work or succeed at anything in life, their wealth deprives them of pride in their own usefulness, isolates them from everyone less fortunate, distorts relationships with their loved ones, and ultimately disillusioning them. Their rates of depression and suicide, and their general levels of misery go up beyond middle-class levels almost to the levels of the poor.
Lets discuss the various forms of money that wealthy parents have and how they use it as a weapon on their children.
Fuck You Money - This is when the parents have so much money, they will never have to work a day in their lives, nor will their children have to work to make a living.
Go Away Money - This is when the parents have their own lives, and want a total seperation from their children from spoiling their individuality. The parent is able to make their children go away simply by throwing money at them.
The cause is you as the parent, but the cure is also with you as the parent.
Parents often ask dr. sober companion:
What you can do to help my children?
How can you help with their addictions?
How do you stop them from drinking and their alcoholism?
Is it to late to help my children?
dr. sober companion answers with the simple fact that as long as your children are still living, you have a chance as a parent to help them.
Its only late when their dead.
Don't wait til you have killed your children.
email dr. sober companion at dr.sober@gmail.com
dr. sober companion is dr. rob tencer
why do drug rehab clinics hire family therapists to help with addictions?
rehab and family therapists - by dr. sober companion dr. rob tencer
Family therapists agree that wealth does not make people happy. Family therapists are hired by the rehab clinic to help with the family problems that arise when you have wealthy parents.
Problems like the money you give to your son or daughter, which is either through a trust fund or allowance.
You as a parent have created an inherently unequal relationship, with your children in which they are essentially employed by you. Your children believe the family money belongs to them when they reach a certain age.
While a good parent would involve themselves in their children lives, you can control and develop a loving relationship with your children. You can control the family life and the good family relationship in a positive way with the use of the money.
What often happens though, when you don't supply your children with this loving family atmosphere is that your children experiment by spending the money you control.
Your children become angry and resentful at your efforts at control, and your children gets their only sense of power by blowing money foolishly. Without your love and your time invested in your children, your children are likely to be in a state of permanent rebellion.
The problems of the rich, whether the Kennedy's, the Windsors, or the lottery winners are rarely caused just by the money. No amount of money can create good genes or good parents or good relationship or even good luck.
Wealth alone can neither cause nor cure the pains of life, it can just make them inexplicable to the envious.
Although the rich are as much in need of help as anyone else, they are an overlooked phenomenon in the family psychotherapy literature.
Wealth is not good for children. As Andree Aelion Brooks (1989) noted, it creates a lifetime dependency upon rich parents, belittles children's own accomplishments, distorts their relationships with their peers, makes them distrustful of friendships, and increases their sense of what is enough.
Fuck You Money - This is when the parents have so much money, they will never have to work a day in their lives, nor will their children have to work to make a living.
Go Away Money - This is when the parents have their own lives, and want a total seperation from their children from spoiling their individuality. The parent is able to make their children go away simply by throwing money at them.
The harm that is caused by using these techniques on the wealthy parents own children, drives the children to pick up addictions. The rich parents are directly responsible for causing their childrens addiction to drugs and their alcoholism.
If the wealthy parent deals with their children when its to late, this could result in their childs death. Simply by cutting off their childrens money might cause them to seek out illegel means for supplying their addictions. Sometimes the cause of this parental problem is when a parent carried into wealth and has no idea that acting this way to their children is like allowing them to play with a loaded gun.
If the parents were both from money, then they understood what harm they could cause their children by giving them fuck you money or go away money could cause. They can't simply be blameless in this case for causing their childrens drug and alcohol addiction, leading to their childrens death.
Parents often ask dr. sober companion:
What you can do to help my children?
How can you help with their addictions?
How do you stop them from drinking and their alcoholism?
Is it to late to help my children?
dr. sober companion answers with the simple fact that as long as your children are still living, you have a chance as a parent to help them.
Its only late when their dead.
Don't wait until you have killed your children.
email dr. sober companion at dr.sober@gmail.com
dr. sober companion is dr. rob tencer sober comapnion
Family therapists agree that wealth does not make people happy. Family therapists are hired by the rehab clinic to help with the family problems that arise when you have wealthy parents.
Problems like the money you give to your son or daughter, which is either through a trust fund or allowance.
You as a parent have created an inherently unequal relationship, with your children in which they are essentially employed by you. Your children believe the family money belongs to them when they reach a certain age.
While a good parent would involve themselves in their children lives, you can control and develop a loving relationship with your children. You can control the family life and the good family relationship in a positive way with the use of the money.
What often happens though, when you don't supply your children with this loving family atmosphere is that your children experiment by spending the money you control.
Your children become angry and resentful at your efforts at control, and your children gets their only sense of power by blowing money foolishly. Without your love and your time invested in your children, your children are likely to be in a state of permanent rebellion.
The problems of the rich, whether the Kennedy's, the Windsors, or the lottery winners are rarely caused just by the money. No amount of money can create good genes or good parents or good relationship or even good luck.
Wealth alone can neither cause nor cure the pains of life, it can just make them inexplicable to the envious.
Although the rich are as much in need of help as anyone else, they are an overlooked phenomenon in the family psychotherapy literature.
Wealth is not good for children. As Andree Aelion Brooks (1989) noted, it creates a lifetime dependency upon rich parents, belittles children's own accomplishments, distorts their relationships with their peers, makes them distrustful of friendships, and increases their sense of what is enough.
Fuck You Money - This is when the parents have so much money, they will never have to work a day in their lives, nor will their children have to work to make a living.
Go Away Money - This is when the parents have their own lives, and want a total seperation from their children from spoiling their individuality. The parent is able to make their children go away simply by throwing money at them.
The harm that is caused by using these techniques on the wealthy parents own children, drives the children to pick up addictions. The rich parents are directly responsible for causing their childrens addiction to drugs and their alcoholism.
If the wealthy parent deals with their children when its to late, this could result in their childs death. Simply by cutting off their childrens money might cause them to seek out illegel means for supplying their addictions. Sometimes the cause of this parental problem is when a parent carried into wealth and has no idea that acting this way to their children is like allowing them to play with a loaded gun.
If the parents were both from money, then they understood what harm they could cause their children by giving them fuck you money or go away money could cause. They can't simply be blameless in this case for causing their childrens drug and alcohol addiction, leading to their childrens death.
The cause is you as the parent, but the cure is also with you as the parent.
Parents often ask dr. sober companion:
What you can do to help my children?
How can you help with their addictions?
How do you stop them from drinking and their alcoholism?
Is it to late to help my children?
dr. sober companion answers with the simple fact that as long as your children are still living, you have a chance as a parent to help them.
Its only late when their dead.
Don't wait until you have killed your children.
email dr. sober companion at dr.sober@gmail.com
dr. sober companion is dr. rob tencer sober comapnion
Tuesday, September 30, 2008
5 reasons why parents need dr sober companion for their daughter
BAD INFLUENCES
Your daughter is the love of your life. She wanted her freedom to go to school but she picked up very bad habits while she was away and out of your supervision. She started drinking and taking drugs. It started with happy hour, but became any hour of the day or night.
PEER PRESSURE
If your daughter has a problem with drinking or drugs, and gets to carried away, to quickly, should she even be going out with a bunch of lushes? Your daughter has no willpower to make these decisions on her own, and peer pressure puts her in a bad position.OUT OF CONTROL
Making a fool out of herself when she is drunk or high on drugs, is something she will regret for the rest of her life. The embarrassment to her family, who has to see the photo's in the newspapers and magazines could have been prevented with dr sober companion.BLACKOUTS
A very good reason parents need dr sober companion for their daughters, is that once the girl gets high or drunk or even worse, she blacks out. She doesn't know what kind of trouble she is getting into, and has no way of stopping it. She doesn't know who she is with or how she got there. She is in for a big surprise when she wakes up.
STRANGERS LEAD HER ASTRAY
The last reason your daughters need a sober companion is the large risk of what kind of people are your drugged out or drunk daughters ending up with for the night? They can't possibly make the right decisions and they guy she is with is making the decision for her.The final choice to act now is yours. Do you want to see your daughter in the worst case scenario or do you want to have many more years with your daughter the way she was before the bad influences and enablers impact on her life?
WORST CASE SCENARIO
HAPPY DAYS WITH YOUR DAUGHTERS
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