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Friday, March 20, 2009

young sports agent at CAA dies of drug use or was it just a suicide?

The following obituary of a young man may have occured long ago, but the reality of drug and alcohol addiction is just as big a problem today as it was back then. Depression caused by the economy may even be a bigger concern as young people cannot find jobs and turn to drugs and alcohol to escape their lives problems.

Finding someone to watch over your friends and family like dr. sober companion, can be the difference between life and death. Don't you want to keep your son or daughter alive, long enough to have reached the young age 36?

Jay Moloney, the former CAA "Young Turk" whose meteoric rise as an agent was followed by an equally terrifying free fall into drug addiction, died Tuesday morning in an apparent suicide, authorities said. He turned 35 on Sunday.

Word of Moloney's death swept rapidly through the industry drawing an emotional response from industry friends and former colleagues. CAA president notified CAA staff via a heartfelt e-mail.

Moloney was found hanged in a shower in his Hollywood Hills home about 8 a.m., the Los Angeles County Coroner's Office said. A male friend who was staying in the house called 911 when he heard the shower running for some time.

Moloney was last seen alive sometime between 12:30-1:30 a.m., when he apparently locked himself inside the master bedroom, said L.A. County Coroner's spokesman Scott Carrier. He added that, while the investigation was ongoing, it appeared there was no foul play and no suicide note.

The coroner's office said Moloney had a "history of despondency."

Moloney's death follows years of battling substance abuse. Earlier this year, he was trying once again to re-establish himself in Hollywood after several years of exile. In April, he was named president of Paradise Music & Entertainment, the company newly formed by Bob Dylan's son Jesse, but lost his post there after several months.

"I knew Jay as a decent, hard-working guy," said Ron Meyer, who was president of Universal Studios and a co-founder of CAA. "It's a tragic waste of what could have been a full, productive life."

"He was always trying to get better. So many people worked to try and help Jay," said Andrew Jarecki, CEO of Moviefone and a longtime friend. "If there is any solace, it's that every one of his friends (was) there for him and tried hard to help him. This is a disease that was more powerful than all of his powerful friends."

During his 35 years, Moloney saw some extraordinary highs and lows, even by Hollywood standards.

Raised in Malibu and Newport, Ore., Moloney was the son of screenwriter Jim Moloney. While attending USC film school in May 1984, he landed a job in the CAA mailroom. Almost immediately, the 19-year-old was afforded a grand opportunity -- to work as Michael Ovitz's assistant.

"I am shocked and saddened by Jay's death," Ovitz said in a statement. "He was an incredibly talented man with a kind and gentle soul. Unfortunately, his personal struggles were too great to overcome. I will cherish our friendship, and his memory will remain with me always."

Moloney remained in Ovitz's office for three years before becoming a full-fledged agent. With Ovitz's help, he started handling the careers of some of the biggest names in the business. Among his clients (or clients he represented with Ovitz) were such A-list talent as Martin Scorsese, Ron Bass, Sean Connery, Leonardo DiCaprio, Steven Spielberg, Bill Murray, Dustin Hoffman, David Letterman, Tim Burton and Uma Thurman.

"Jay was the reason that I signed with CAA," said screenwriter Bass, who knew him since 1989. "Before I even signed, he said, 'I'm going to be your agent,' and he went out and he flew across the country and got me a job working for Robert Redford. He did all this without any guarantee of a commission. He was one of the most lovely, charming, unforgettable people that I've seen in the 30-some years I've been in the business. I loved him. I guess (this is) a day I kidded myself would never come."

When Ovitz exited CAA to join the Walt Disney Co. in 1995, Moloney became one of the young agents named to run the agency, joining eight other managing partners including Richard Lovett, Rick Nicita, Lee Gabler, Bryan Lourd, Kevin Huvane, David O'Connor, Tom Ross and Jack Rapke.

About the same time, Moloney's close friends began to learn that he was battling a serious drug problem, and in May 1996 -- unable to kick his addiction -- he resigned from CAA. Subsequently, he spoke about spending time in rehab with reporter John Brodie for a Premiere magazine profile that was published in July 1997.

After leaving CAA, Moloney's life was a succession of battles to beat his drug habit and return to work. During that time, he was reported to have spent time working on a kibbutz in Israel and as a manual laborer in the Caribbean. But he also made at least one suicide attempt at the Beverly Hills Hotel, according to friends.

Throughout his struggles, many of his former CAA partners, along with Ovitz, remained supportive. About a year ago, there was talk that Moloney would join Ovitz's new venture, Artists Management Group. But nothing materialized from those talks.

In April, Moloney was named to run Paradise. But by August, he had stopped coming to work and was reportedly back in rehab, with M. Jay Walkingshaw named to replace him.

"Jay was our brother," the CAA partners said in a statement. "No words can express our sadness and grief at this moment. Everyone who knew Jay loved him."

"He had this youthful energy and exuberance and at the same time was incredibly fearless," said Amy Baer, Moloney's onetime assistant who is now an executive vp with Columbia Pictures. "I learned from him (that) if there was something you wanted to accomplish, proceed with no fear. He was a great teacher without ever really teaching -- he did it by example."

The coroner's office is continuing its investigation and will conduct complete toxicology tests, the results of which will not be available for six to eight weeks.

James David "Jay" Moloney is survived by his mother, Carole Johnson, and his two brothers, Sean and Darren. Funeral arrangements have yet to be determined.

Monday, March 16, 2009

cocaine use by young successful musicians

Cocaine use by young succesful musicians is a very bad lesson and a very good lesson of what awaits success and money. The bad lesson of drug use is that people like robin thicke talk about drug use, sing about drug use and addiction and support drug use. The good lesson of these young wealthy people talking about drug use and addiction is that they are admitting their addictions.



I saw a review of what robin thicke said and agree with wetmoney omega eben gregory, that drug use and addiction is not cool, and that robin thicke is a fool. A rich fool.

Friday, February 13, 2009

Monday, January 26, 2009

How to get involved in your children and invest in their lives before they turn to drugs and alcohol

how to have a parents involvement in their children - by dr. sober companion dr. rob tencer

Nobody said it would be easy to raise good kids who don't turn to drugs and alcohol or other addictions that could lead to their death. Isn't it worth the effort to change their lives?

You must start out by paying your dues, and expect snotty comments, dirty looks, appendages lifted in your honor, exasperated huffs, slammed doors, chucked items, and enough "whys" to split King Solomon in half.

You as a wealthy parent, must invest in your family in some of the following ways:

* Identification and communication of their whereabouts and activities.
* Encouraging them to get a job AND save some of their paycheck.
* Requiring a clean room and a bit of help around the house.
* Payment for some gas when tooling around for no reason.
* Speaking to them with respect and demanding the same back.
* Allowing them to bear the consequences of their own behavior.
* Being able to pronounce the word "no."
* Simple rules for clean and appropriate clothing, which implies use of their senses, namely sight, smell and common.
* Aiding and abetting other authority figures.
* Meaning what I say and saying what I mean.

You must have the strength to expect that it will be hard and time consuming, but the reward that you will earn is your childs life.

You must have no remorse and do not fear punishment.
Since you as a parent function as judge to your children, and the jury and jailor, your punishment can take many forms, the worst being isolation, a type of family solitary confinement.

Isolation works like the cooties. Cast out from their inner circle, devoid of the details of their day, you experience the dreaded "silent treatment." (Now you know why I have no fear. It's more like a vacation.)

Unfortunately, this doesn't last very long as your kids will be unable to tolerate your confinement any better than Paris Hilton took to hers. This time off from hearing about their behavior will be short-lived as they soon discover they need you for nearly every aspect of daily life.

Despite the little perks of this type of parenthood such as this, some parents need may special help accepting their lot in life.


If you become uncomfortable as a parent to your children who badly need you, you should remember how important you are to your children.

1. Admit that you have all the power and that family life is manageable when adults are in charge.
2. Believe that a Power greater than you blessed you with this child who challenges your sanity.
3. Decide to turn a good portion of your lifetime over to the care and raising of a healthy competent future adult.
4. Make a fearless inventory of what is best for your kids. That involves having them share some jobs around the house, talking to others with respect and encouraging them to do their best.
5. Acknowledge there might times you swear you don't know where they inherited the nature of their wrongs.
6. Be entirely ready to remove all of their defects of character as soon as you get rid of your own.
7. Humbly ask God to overlook your own because you are really busy right now.
8. List all things done by your children that you have corrected and be willing to consider admitting years later if you were ever wrong. (It's probably a short list.)
9. Plan to make amends to this short list when possible, although not probable.
10. Continue to take close inventory of the persons under your care even as they get mouthier and nastier.
11. Pray for the knowledge and courage to continue providing parental guidance and supervision until they are of the age of reason or until age 30, whichever comes first.
12. As a result of following these steps, acknowledge that you are trying to show your children how to grow into a responsible adult though you realize right now your messages may fall on deaf ears.

Your children might define your being active in their lives as being nasty and unfair: A parent defines this same behavior as being responsible, caring, protective and loving.

Just tell yourself that someday, your kids will know what you mean and why you took the time to save their lives.

Parents often ask dr. sober companion:

What you can do to help my children?

How can you help with their addictions?

How do you stop them from drinking and their alcoholism?

Is it to late to help my children?


dr. sober companion answers with the simple fact that as long as your children are still living, you have a chance as a parent to help them.

Its only late when their dead.

Don't wait until you have killed your children.

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The nanny is called to raise the wealthy children, and destroy the family

the nanny raises rich children - by dr. sober companion dr. rob tencer

Successful men and women may bow out of active parenting, hiring in effect a nanny to raise their children for them. Unfortunately, the children of these ever-present nannies and ever-absent fathers and mothers are not likely to get to know the creator and/or steward of the family wealth and therefore do not benefit from their parents wisdom they learned from their failures and their successes-which would be their irreplaceable heritage.

Because children learn about money and values from the nanny who raises them, they identify with their angry, emotionally and often financially deprived nanny. These children are likely to develop selfish, short-term goals and objectives, far different from the long-term goal of their wealth-producing or wealth-protecting parents.

Your children rarely develop skills at making or keeping money, merely skills at throwing it away. Your children develop the skills that are least likely to produce long-term happiness or solid relationships.

Your children may grow up with a strong sense of entitlement, enormous self-esteem, and a self-conscious belief in their own importance and visibility in the universe, but no self-confidence, no belief that they can do anything of value for themselves or anyone else.

Your children may have to blow their inherited wealth before they can move on toward their own successes.

You as parents may only go into battle to get your alcoholic son or daughter out of a drunk-driving charge, with great concern for how it would look on his record and little concern with the reality of his alcoholism.

Lets discuss the various forms of money that wealthy parents have and how they use it as a weapon on their children.

Fuck You Money - This is when the parents have so much money, they will never have to work a day in their lives, nor will their children have to work to make a living.

Go Away Money - This is when the parents have their own lives, and want a total seperation from their children from spoiling their individuality. The parent is able to make their children go away simply by throwing money at them.

The cause is you as the parent, but the cure is also with you as the parent.

Parents often ask dr. sober companion:

What you can do to help my children?

How can you help with their addictions?

How do you stop them from drinking and their alcoholism?

Is it to late to help my children?

dr. sober companion answers with the simple fact that as long as your children are still living, you have a chance as a parent to help them.

Its only late when their dead.

Don't wait until you have killed your children.

email dr. sober companion at dr.sober@gmail.com

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why parenting time is more valuable to children then your money

spend time with your children - by dr. sober dr. rob tencer

While a good parent would involve themselves in their childrens lives, you can control and develop a loving relationship with your children. Yes, You can also control the family life and the good family relationship in a positive way with the use of the money.

What often happens though, when you don't supply your children with this loving family atmosphere is that your children experiment by spending the money you control. Your children become angry and resentful at your efforts at control, and your children gets their only sense of power by blowing money foolishly.

Without your love and your time invested in your children, your children are likely to be in a state of permanent rebellion.

Your son or daughter need their father
When you as the father have little impact on your children-except to deprive them emotionally and set grand and ambivalently held ideals for them, you are destroying them.

Your son or daughter need their mother
When you as the mother spend little time on your children you destroy them.

Mothers are required by society to be the ones who spend more time with their children their fathers, but mothers can also go missing when it comes to parenting.

While mothers may feel guilty about it, whereas men more often than not have been praised for abandoning their families in the pursuit of various varieties of glory.

Can you understand how this way of life destroys your family and your children?

Lets discuss the various forms of money that wealthy parents have and how they use it as a weapon on their children.

Fuck You Money - This is when the parents have so much money, they will never have to work a day in their lives, nor will their children have to work to make a living.

Go Away Money - This is when the parents have their own lives, and want a total seperation from their children from spoiling their individuality. The parent is able to make their children go away simply by throwing money at them.

The cause is you as the parent, but the cure is also with you as the parent.

Parents often ask dr. sober companion:

What you can do to help my children?

How can you help with their addictions?

How do you stop them from drinking and their alcoholism?

Is it to late to help my children?

dr. sober companion answers with the simple fact that as long as your children are still living, you have a chance as a parent to help them.

Its only late when their dead.

Don't wait until you have killed your children.

email dr. sober comapnion at dr.sober@gmail.com

dr. sober companion is dr. rob tencer

A wealthy parents greed was the drug they gave to their children

greed in the family - by dr. sober companion dr. rob tencer

Your curse to your children is that you require unhealthy ways to gain pleasure. It has been studied and pointed out (philip slater 1980), that your senseless greed and continuation in the pursuit of wealth long past the point that it gives you pleasure.

One of the main reasons wealth makes you unhappy is that it gives you too much control over what you experience. You try to translate your own fantasies into reality . . . an enervating and disappointing pastime ...

Your curse to your children was in their education and how they grew up. Your children's learning and growing are very difficult with wealth because they depend on experiences in real life, and wealth enables one to buy out of life.

Wealth provides the wherewithal to cling to every outworn fantasy, pathway, or goal-to grasp every outgrown security blanket more tightly-to control your input in such a way that you never need to change or develop.

The curse of money and its ultimate affect on you and your children could result in severe depression or suicide, its so powerful.

This curse of money was studied in depth by Cloe Madanes, who pointed out, "wealth often appears to be cursed, bringing with it more misery than joy." Sooner or later they realize that the wealth is not going to make them happy, but they then are likely to seek out more intense and drastic pleasures, from taking more risks, finding new drugs, getting into machines that go too fast, or otherwise trying to intensify experiences in a life that is rapidly becoming jaded, exhausted from overindulgence.


When a child grows up with having so much money, they don't have to work or succeed at anything in life, their wealth deprives them of pride in their own usefulness, isolates them from everyone less fortunate, distorts relationships with their loved ones, and ultimately disillusioning them.

Your children rates of depression and suicide, and their general levels of misery go up beyond middle-class levels almost to the levels of the poor.

Lets discuss the various forms of money that wealthy parents have and how they use it as a weapon on their children.

Fuck You Money - This is when the parents have so much money, they will never have to work a day in their lives, nor will their children have to work to make a living.

Go Away Money - This is when the parents have their own lives, and want a total seperation from their children from spoiling their individuality. The parent is able to make their children go away simply by throwing money at them.

The cause is you as the parent, but the cure is also with you as the parent.

Parents often ask dr. sober companion:

What you can do to help my children?

How can you help with their addictions?

How do you stop them from drinking and their alcoholism?

Is it to late to help my children?

dr. sober companion answers with the simple fact that as long as your children are still living, you have a chance as a parent to help them.

Its only late when their dead.

Don't wait until you have killed your children.

email dr. sober companion at dr.sober@gmail.com


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What is going on in the wealthy parents head, that they could not treat their children as their most vauable possesion?

Your children is your most valuable possession - by dr. sober comapnion dr. rob tencer

Your children may be unhappy because they are your children which J. Sedgwick describes as a dispiriting and crippling burden, because you may have amassed wealth obsessively through your inability to be satisfied, your relentless need for competitive victory, and your willingness to commit the "great crime" that, presumably "lies behind every great fortune."

In other words, you are inherently unhappy and do what they do in hopes that more of something (or maybe even more of everything) will finally fill the void inside of you.

It is your unhappiness (i.e., your inability to be easily satisfied) that has driven them to get rich.
It is this destructive way of life that destroys your childrens abilities in their life.

Lets discuss the various forms of money that wealthy parents have and how they use it as a weapon on their children.

Fuck You Money - This is when the parents have so much money, they will never have to work a day in their lives, nor will their children have to work to make a living.

Go Away Money - This is when the parents have their own lives, and want a total seperation from their children from spoiling their individuality. The parent is able to make their children go away simply by throwing money at them.

The cause is you as the parent, but the cure is also with you as the parent.

Parents often ask dr. sober companion:

What you can do to help my children?

How can you help with their addictions?

How do you stop them from drinking and their alcoholism?

Is it to late to help my children?

dr. sober companion answers with the simple fact that as long as your children are still living, you have a chance as a parent to help them.

Its only late when their dead.

Don't wait until you have killed your children.

email dr. sober companion at dr.sober@gmail.com

dr. sober companion is dr. rob tencer

A parents curse of being weathly is tranfered to your children

curses that wealthy parents give to their children - by dr. sober companion dr. rob tencer

The curse of money and its ultimate affect on you and your children could result in severe depression or suicide, its so powerful.

This curse of money was studied in depth by Cloe Madanes, who pointed out, "wealth often appears to be cursed, bringing with it more misery than joy."

Sooner or later they realize that the wealth is not going to make them happy, but they then are likely to seek out more intense and drastic pleasures, from taking more risks, finding new drugs, getting into machines that go too fast, or otherwise trying to intensify experiences in a life that is rapidly becoming jaded, exhausted from overindulgence.

When a child grows up with having so much money, they don't have to work or succeed at anything in life, their wealth deprives them of pride in their own usefulness, isolates them from everyone less fortunate, distorts relationships with their loved ones, and ultimately disillusioning them. Their rates of depression and suicide, and their general levels of misery go up beyond middle-class levels almost to the levels of the poor.

Lets discuss the various forms of money that wealthy parents have and how they use it as a weapon on their children.

Fuck You Money - This is when the parents have so much money, they will never have to work a day in their lives, nor will their children have to work to make a living.

Go Away Money - This is when the parents have their own lives, and want a total seperation from their children from spoiling their individuality. The parent is able to make their children go away simply by throwing money at them.

The cause is you as the parent, but the cure is also with you as the parent.

Parents often ask dr. sober companion:

What you can do to help my children?

How can you help with their addictions?

How do you stop them from drinking and their alcoholism?

Is it to late to help my children?

dr. sober companion answers with the simple fact that as long as your children are still living, you have a chance as a parent to help them.

Its only late when their dead.

Don't wait til you have killed your children.

email dr. sober companion at dr.sober@gmail.com

dr. sober companion is dr. rob tencer

financial advisers reveal secrets of the wealthy and why rich kids get addicted to drugs and alcohol

financial advisers to the rich and wealthy - by dr. sober companion dr. rob tencer

While most people in world envy the rich, financial advisers reveal the secret that wealthy people are not happy. Money is the weapon of choice that wealthy parents use to ruin their children. While some parents are responsible, most are not. Financial advisers see this on a daily basis.

The danger of money is overlooked in the financial literature. Perhaps financial advisers have little patience with your seemingly enviable problems. While you deserve our understanding and even sympathy. Anything that prevents people from developing a functional reciprocity with the world is destructive.

Both the rich and the poor can grow up without exposure to functional people and realistically attainable goals and acquirable skills.

Financial advisers need to overcome their envy long enough to understand the problem. Money is powerful. It can do good or it can do harm.

Lets discuss the various forms of money that wealthy parents have and how they use it as a weapon on their children.

Fuck You Money - This is when the parents have so much money, they will never have to work a day in their lives, nor will their children have to work to make a living.

Go Away Money - This is when the parents have their own lives, and want a total seperation from their children from spoiling their individuality. The parent is able to make their children go away simply by throwing money at them.

The harm that is caused by using these techniques on the wealthy parents own children, drives the children to pick up addictions. The rich parents are directly responsible for causing their childrens addiction to drugs and their alcoholism.

If the wealthy parent deals with their children when its to late, this could result in their childs death. Simply by cutting off their childrens money might cause them to seek out illegel means for supplying their addictions. Sometimes the cause of this parental problem is when a parent married into wealth and has no idea that acting this way to their children is like allowing them to play with a loaded gun. If the parents were both from money, then they understood what harm they could cause their children by giving them fuck you money or go away money could cause. They can't simply be blameless in this case for causing their childrens drug and alcohol addiction, leading to their childrens death.

The cause is you as the parent, but the cure is also with you as the parent.

Parents often ask dr. sober companion:

What you can do to help my children?

How can you help with their addictions?

How do you stop them from drinking and their alcoholism?

Is it to late to help my children?

dr. sober companion answers with the simple fact that as long as your children are still living, you have a chance as a parent to help them. Its only late when their dead.

Don't wait til you have killed your children.

email dr. sober at dr.sober@gmail.com

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